My Mother and her Mother, Mary, when she was a little girl - upper left photo
My Mother in the middle with her sisters, Matilda and Anna - upper right photo
My Mother with her first husband Pat DiMemmo, who was killed in a car accident in 1957 - lower left photo
My Mother with my Dad - lower right photo
As many of you know, my Mom passed away in January of this year. She was sick for about 2 years, and we were lucky it was a short time. Prior to that, my Mom enjoyed good health, so it was very strange for me to see her not well. I can't even describe the loss of a Mother. You will never understand until you experience it yourself. My Dad passed away in 2004, and we had each other to hug and cry together. When she passed in January, I found out just how strong I really am, not something I was looking forward to.
My Mom was the original foodie. She was a great cook, and baker, and loved new recipes to try. She was very open to all types of food. She worked with many lovely Jewish ladies, and I had my share of Matzo which I love. She also received many great recipes from her co-workers, she was so thrilled to make for her family to enjoy. She once made a ham for Easter that was covered with a crust, the ham was in the center, it was quite a sight! There were many few foods she didn't like, French Onion Soup and Girl Scout Thin Mints were not favorites. We enjoyed many Afternoon Teas together, she loved watching the New York Yankees and tennis matches. I am so grateful for all we did together, I wish we did more, but the memories I have will be with me forever.
I am trying to understand this tremendous loss on this day we celebrate our Mother. I feel so bad for those who have Mother's they are not close to. I cannot even fathom that, we did argue, but always made up in the end. As I got older, and after my Dad passed away, we really become closer. She was my best friend, my best supporter. I miss her smile so much, I miss hugging her so tight she would yell at me I was hurting her. I miss saying something that she would say she was thinking the exact same thing. I miss just talking to her, and getting her opinion on my daily life.
I hope to try today to remember my great memories of my Mom and all the Mother's Day's we did have together. I would say to all of you who are lucky enough to have your Mom with you, spoil her rotten. Buy her flowers for no reason, not just on Mother's Day. Enjoy all the moments you have with her, because you never know how long you have with them. A Mother's bond is one that is unique, and cannot be duplicated. It is the ever-consuming love of your whole heart and soul. I really feel once they pass, they are still with you. Watching over you, hearing you when you speak to them, and being proud of what you accomplish.
Until we meet again Mom, thank you for all you have given me. You were one classy lady, and I hope I can live up to your legacy in my lifetime.
My Mom and I holding hands in the nursing home the week before she passed away
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